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This is another book by 吳若權 , another author in my favourite list, a book that I would like to recommend,

and to my girls, please read this book before you want to start dating.

When I read it, hubby was beside me watching his sport show on tv. I shared with him parts that I find it so true, parts that I want to teach my daughters, .. and parts that as if the author was talking about him, like below:

“Only want to make love, but not washing dishes”

“Some men, whether lazy or not, depends on places, situation and the person he is dealing with.”

“Only lazy towards his own family members, but with others, he is totally opposite and very attentive.”

“Only lazy with tasks assigned by wife, but very passionate and hardworking on things he desires.”  

I read the above two to him, and hubby pretended to raise and making a move to kitchen, saying “OK, now go wash the bowl lo…” (in cantonese)  … hahaha..

And this one I would like to dedicate to parents who have sons especially:

“As a parent, we must teach our children to do house work from young, regardless of son or daughter, must be treated equally !”

And this one is for my girls, when choosing your life partner, must also find out the mentality of his parents regarding the upbringing of their children. Beware of those that serve their son like king and the son is waived from any house hold chores.

Did MRI on last Friday. Not good. Went through CT-aided biopsy the next day.

Shoulder still in pain. Still panicked and had to pull myself hard to think positively.

Thanks to my hubby and my sisters for always be at my side to cheer up and encourage me.

My hubby helped me took bath and washed my hair when I first came back with a big patch at my shoulder back.

We talked and reconciled on things we need to change for a healthier life; stop being perfectionist; stop getting mad for others wrong doing; must 看开; start doing routine exercise;.. then the rest just let the doctors do their jobs.

Then he and my mother in law brought me to 拜拜 at an old temple near Central Market, worship the God of 华佗 (Chinese  famous ancient doctor). Ya, to boost my confidence psychologically.

And my sisters for sharing and discussion on what I should do next, seeking advice from their friends. And my elder sister for awakening me that I should enjoy my sick leaves, doing things that I am not able to do, instead of thinking nonsense, wasting time panicking.


Ya, I must be positive after seeing what all have done. Shouldn’t act like a sick baby. Que Sera Sera…


Girls, please do take good care and respect your daddy,  大姨 and 小姨 A LOT when you grow up.

The Flash Cards:


The Cut-&-Paste:


The revision practices:


As everything is settled, went for a check up for my aching-shoulder.

The night before, I asked my hubby to be prepared for bad news. I guess he tried to cheer up by saying “I am always ready.”

After the X-ray, guess what, doctor said my bone got ‘thing’. Though doctor said can’t tell if it’s the big “C” until the MRI result is out Friday, … sigh …

Even though I considered myself already prepared, but the first thought hitting me was my girls are still so young, and I couldn’t help crying all the way home in the car.

When reached home, I cleared my tears, put up a smiley face. The girls greeted me with “Mummy, how are you? “, “Is your shoulder still pain?”

Ya,.. they are such adorable, doing their homework by themselves, practising their piano, and not creating any trouble to my housekeeper who was busy cooking and cleaning up (after the long break).

Will wait for detail result on Friday.

Girls, Mummy loves you.

Like Daddy said, will fight this together.

As a result of not being able to go anywhere due to daddy is sick, I watched this movie together with my girls: Dr Seuss The Lorax.

Though I haven’t read the book,  I am glad that they make a film out of it.

The story started in a walled city called Thneed-Ville, where everything is artificial and even the air is a commodity (and the girls laughed seeing how they ‘pump’ up a tree). A boy named Ted hopes to win the heart of his dream girl, Audrey. When he learns of her wish to see a real tree, Ted seeks out the Once-ler, a ruined old businessman outside of town in a stark wasteland. . . 

And I like the message they put in the ending, which I read aloud to my girls:

“Unless someone like you…cares a whole awful lot…nothing is going to get better…It’s not.” 

Sigh, as one of the book review I got:

Long before saving the earth became a global concern, Dr. Seuss, speaking through his character the Lorax, warned against mindless progress and the danger it posed to the earth’s natural beauty.

Don’t have a chance to go to the Book Fest 2012 @ KLCC yet. Just came back from sending my mum home and hubby fell sick. I felt bad, hubby was called in for a night job the day before we departed, and worked till almost midnight. Next day morning we left as schedule, as my mum  was too ‘home sick’. Guess he must have been over exhausted and caught the flu.

Sorry for side tracked.

Just want to recommend this book by 黑柳彻子, a Japanese author, who was appointed UNICEF Goodwill Ambassador after the book got the hit , not just made Japanese publishing history by selling more than 5 million before the end of 1982, but also translated into 33 languages including English and Chinese.


I recently finished reading this book and I would mark it as something I would like to read for my children when they are in Primary school. And I think it’s a good, relaxing reading for parents and teachers too. Some chapters of the book are extracted to be in the Japanese primary school text book.

After reading, I just wish for  more headmasters/teachers/educators who have the same noble  heart as Mr. Kobayashi 小林宗作; I wish for schools like 巴学园 Tomoe Gakuen in this world.

And also something to learn from Totto-Chan’s mother, Totto-Chan didn’t know that she was actually being expelled from the public school when her mother brought her to this 巴学园 Tomoe Gakuen, where she met the headmaster Mr. Kobayashi who spent 4 hours listening to her wholeheartedly.  She only found out her expulsion when she was 20 years old. (reminded me  of the Italian movie “Life is Beautiful”)

Here is the book synopsis from Wikipedia:

The book begins with Totto-chan’s mother coming to know of her daughter’s expulsion from public school. Her mother realizes that what Totto-chan needs is a school where more freedom of expression is permitted. Thus, she takes Totto-chan to meet the headmaster of the new school, Mr. Kobayashi. From that moment a friendship is formed between master and pupil.

The book goes on to describe the times that Totto-chan has, the friends she makes, the lessons she learns, and the vibrant atmosphere that she imbibes. All of these are presented to the reader through the eyes of a child. Thus the reader sees how the normal world is transformed into a beautiful, exciting place full of joy and enthusiasm. The reader also sees in their role as adults, how Mr. Kobayashi introduces new activities to interest the pupils. One sees in Mr. Kobayashi a man who understands children and strives to develop their qualities of mind, body and heart. His concern for the physically handicapped and his emphasis on the equality of all children are remarkable. In the school, the children lead happy lives, unaware of the things going on in the world. World War 2 has started, yet in this school, no signs of it are seen. But one day, the school is bombed, and was never rebuilt, even though the headmaster claimed that he looked forward to building an even better school the next time round. It was never done and this ends Totto-chan’s years as a pupil at Tomoe Gakuen.

Last week, Sin Chew newspaper had two coverage on Homeschooling. They interviewed two families who home school their children. You can check out the articles from the link shared below.

[Teach based on a child’s talent and gifted ability, producing excellent students at home]


[家庭教育資源中心(Home Schooling Resource Centre)或學習中心(Learning Centre), shorter studying time, and more flexible teaching method]

What caught my attention is the sharing of one parent, who believe in Character is more important than academic achievement. And he pasted a poster at home, “Character Determines Success”, which list down 40 good characters, which he wanted his children to always remember and hope to instill in them.

Here is the list of the 40 Characters that determine Success:

Alertness vs. carelessness
— being aware of what is taking place around me so I can have the right responses.

Attentiveness vs. distraction
— showing the worth of a person or task by giving my undivided concentration.

Availability vs. self-centeredness
— making my own schedule and priorities secondary to the wishes of those I serve.

Benevolence vs. selfishness
— giving to other’s basic needs without having as my motive personal reward.

Boldness vs. fearfulness
— confidence that what I have to say or do is true, right, and just.

Cautiousness vs. rashness
— knowing how important right timing is in accomplishing right actions.

Compassion vs. indifference
— investing whatever is necessary to heal the hurts of others.

Contentment vs. covetousness
— realizing that true happiness does not depend on material conditions.

Creativity vs. underachievement
— approaching a need, a task, or an idea from a new perspective.

Decisiveness vs. procrastination
— the ability to recognize key factors and finalize difficult decisions.

Deference vs. rudeness
— limiting my freedom so I do not offend the tastes of those around me.

Dependability vs. inconsistency
— fulfilling what I consented to do, even if it means unexpected sacrifice.

Determination vs. faintheartedness
— purposing to accomplish right goals at the right time, regardless of the opposition.

Diligence vs. slothfulness
— investing my time and energy to complete each task assigned to me.

Discernment vs. shortsightedness
— understanding the deeper reasons why things happen.

Discretion vs. simplemindedness
— recognizing & avoiding words, actions & attitudes that bring undesirable consequences

Endurance vs. discouragement
— the inward strength to withstand stress and do my best.

Enthusiasm vs. apathy
— expressing joy in each task as I give it my best effort.

Faith vs. presumption
— confidence that actions rooted in good character will yield the best outcome

Flexibility vs. resistance
— willingness to change plans or ideas according to the direction of my authorities

Forgiveness vs. rejection
— clearing the record of those who have wronged me and not holding a grudge

Generosity vs. stinginess
— carefully managing my resources so I can freely give to those in need

Gentleness vs. harshness
— showing consideration and personal concern for others

Gratefulness vs. unthankfulness
— letting others know by my words and actions how they have benefited my life

Honor vs. disrespect
— respecting those in leadership because of the higher authorities they represent

Hospitality vs. loneliness
— cheerfully sharing food, shelter, or conversation to benefit others

Humility vs. pride
— acknowledging that achievement results from the investment of others in my life

Initiative vs. idleness
— recognizing and doing what needs to be done before I am asked to do it

Joyfulness vs. self-pity
— maintaining a good attitude, even when faced with unpleasant conditions

Justice vs. corruption
— taking personal responsibility to uphold what is pure, right and true

Loyalty vs. unfaithfulness
— using difficult times to demonstrate my commitment to those I serve

Meekness vs. anger
— yielding my personal rights and expectations with a desire to serve

Obedience vs. willfulness
— quickly and cheerfully carrying out the direction of those who are responsible for me

Orderliness vs. confusion
— arranging myself and my surroundings to achieve greater efficiency

Patience vs. restlessness
— accepting a difficult situation without giving a deadline to remove it

Persuasiveness vs. contentiousness
— guiding vital truths around another’s mental roadblocks

Punctuality vs. tardiness
— showing esteem for others by doing the right thing at the right time

Resourcefulness vs. wastefulness
— finding practical uses for that which others would overlook or discard

Responsibility vs. unreliability
— knowing and doing what is expected of me

Security vs. anxiety
— structuring my life around that which cannot be destroyed or taken away

Self-control vs. self-indulgence
— rejecting wrong desires and doing what is right

Sensitivity vs. callousness
— perceiving the true attitudes and emotions of those around me

Sincerity vs. hypocrisy
— eagerness to do what is right with transparent motives

Thoroughness vs. incompleteness
— knowing what factors will diminish the effectiveness of my work or words if neglected

Thriftiness vs. extravagence
— allowing myself and others to spend only what is necessary

Tolerance vs. prejudice
— realizing that everyone is at varying levels of development

Truthfulness vs. deception
— earning future trust by accurately reporting past facts

Virtue vs. impurity
— the moral excellence evident in my life as I consistently do what is right

Wisdom vs. foolishness
— seeing and responding to life situations from a perspective that transcends my current


** I think I would like to make a flashcard out of these… but too long my wish list.. 


August 2012

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