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The registration for primary one for children born in 2005 and 2006 starts tomorrow, 1st March.

These few days very ‘lo lo luen’ (In Cantonese, have restless heart, 有点烦,很不安).

Still thinking, should we send them for the famous Chinese primary school, OR, choose one that is smaller scale, may be not so famous, OR, just choose the nearest, don’t bother about its reputation?

What is the best for our children? I don’t know..

We both studied in Chinese primary school. I am from the famous big school in my home town. Same, 40-50 people a class, many many classes for each year. Yes, a lot of homework, got beating, caning if got more than 3 or 4 wrong in spelling test, scolding, made to stand for the whole period when the classroom was too noisy…   etc… but I ‘survive’.   How? .. mm .. knowing the rules, follow the rules to keep myself on the safe side, discipline, know what must be completed asap (used to race with my classmates to complete our homework during recess time) to enjoy watching the cartoon at home later, play more at home,  … Ya, I think that was my surviving skills then. Well, and some I personally think are still quite useful to me now.  Ya, in adult life, still, there are rules we need to follow, things that we must do first on top of all, priority, discipline, self control.  … I think those are good values. . .

…   mm… But then, if I think harder, may be I was just being lucky , may be was just sharp enough to catch what was going on and how things worked in school, just fast enough to get things done on a timely manner .. may be …   and what if my children aren’t as ‘lucky’ as me ?

… guess will only know if we try out …


Though mummy is not a big fan of Lady Gaga, but I like this song especially the version sung by Maria Aragon, a 10 years old girl.

My mama told me when I was young
We are all born superstars
She rolled my hair and put my lipstick on
In the glass of her boudoir

“There’s nothin’ wrong with lovin’ who you are”
She said, “‘Cause He made you perfect, babe”
“So hold your head up, girl and you you’ll go far,
Listen to me when I say”

I’m beautiful in my way,
‘Cause God makes no mistakes
I’m on the right track, baby
I was born this way

Don’t hide yourself in regret,
Just love yourself and you’re set
I’m on the right track, baby
I was born this way

Was sitting sadly near the window watching the rain drops, another day cannot go line-dancing (we are using an open badminton court near my house).

“Why not you go and find a dance class from some dance studio, under a roof one. Then can go regardless of the weather.” my hubby commented.

“Expensive oo” I replied.

“I pay for it.” he added.

“Oh sure ? Really ? ” I said with a big smile, hehehe …

“One condition, only can go for group dancing, cannot sign up for couple dancing. Line dance can, those Latin dance, NO. ” he threw out these sentences while still having his eyes on the newspapers.

Ha ha ha ha … 老夫老妻 only the first time I know he will be jealous, not even during dating time… hahaha…

… I think I will sign up for 太极 then.


Why mummy likes to teach you girls English grammar?

Because mummy don’t speak very good English..

Because mummy want you to speak better English than mummy..

Because mummy want you to learn .. and

Because mummy can learn together with you by teaching you..

Then? (ya, ‘then’ , the girls’ favourite  question)

Then, we all can speak better English.. 🙂

If you are free this Saturday, Feb 26, 7.30pm, at 星洲日报总社,there is a talk given by 洪兰教授 on “Character determines a child’s future 品格决定未来”. 個人相片

She is a professor in Brain Science and she spends a lot of time applying the knowledge she has on this to helping in education, parenting etc.

I like reading her blog ( )  and articles from her in the newspaper.

I personally like this one from her blog: 用心,決定成敗的關鍵 (Use your heart, it determines your success)

What is ‘use your heart 用心’? Here is one the story she shared:


(Translation: A professor in Havard asked the students, “Before we break, do you have time to listen to one story I am going to tell?” The student looked at the watch and said, “Yes”. Then the professor asked again, “What is the time now?” The student who had just looked at his watch need to check his watch for the time, then only can answer. We might be bizarred, “Didn’t the student just look at the watch? Why he didn’t know what was the time?” The professor said, the first time the student looked at the watch, he’s not checking on the time.  He checked whether there was enough time for a story, so he didn’t know the time, need to look at the watch again to know the time.”)

其實我們看東西不是用眼在看,是用心在看,你只看得見你預期看見的東西(All that we see are our visualization, we see not with the eye, but with the soul.)。我們從小學會在特定情境中尋找特定東西,心中所預期要找的東西,會使我們忽略了不在預期中的環境物件,因此就視而不見了。

And she concluded with: 不要怕孩子學得慢,只要用心,一定會成功. (Don’t worry that the child learning pace is slow, as long as 用心, sure will succeed.)

from 親子天下精选部落格

I personally like one Chinese proverb: 不怕慢,只怕站 (Not scare of slow, but scare of standing still).

When I was just a little girl
I asked my mother, what will I be
Will I be pretty, will I be rich
Here’s what she said to me.

Que Sera, Sera,
Whatever will be, will be
The future’s not ours, to see
Que Sera, Sera
What will be, will be.

When I was just a little boy
I asked my mother, what will I be
Will I be handsome, will I be rich
Here’s what she said to me.

Que Sera, Sera,
Whatever will be, will be
The future’s not ours, to see
Que Sera, Sera.

When the girls came back from school, they were taught to keep their shoes in the shoe cabinet before entering the house.

Today, Ying didn’t do it. Ling being a big sister, asked her to keep them.

Ying told her, “I’ve already told mummy that I will put my shoes outside. Mummy said ok.”

My housekeeper was outside as well and witnessed the whole thing. So she asked Ying again, “Are you sure mummy said ok?”

Ying kept quiet.

Later, my housekeeper told me about this. I sat as usual at the dinning area, reading my newspaper, and when Ying passed by, I asked her, “Ying, did you forget something?”

“What mummy?” she smiled sweetly showing her two deep dimples. Guess she was in good mood playing with her Barbie dolls.

“Your shoes.” I said with a normal tone, still keeping my eyes on the newspaper.

“Oh ya, I forgot. ” and she quickly ran off to keep her shoes.

A bit later, I got hold of her, asked her again, what did she told her sister. She looked at me and asked, “How do you know that?”

I looked at her seriously, “Ying, this is called lying you know. It’s very bad to tell a lie you know.”

“Sorry mummy. I am sorry mummy.” Ying’s face turned red instantly and I could see tears in her eyes. Ya.. I know she’s scared that I will scold her. But no choice, I have to give the lecture. (My lecturing to them is scolding.)

Sigh… now another lesson from the girls.. Really need to watch out and help her get rid of this bad habit.

I felt the shortness of breathe again.. raising up a child is really challenging.  Making sure they have food and grow is easy (even with not enough food like those poor countries, children can still grow, may be a bit skinny..) .. but to make sure they turn out to be a decent person, with good moral and ethics, that one really …

And sometimes I have this weird thought, what if they finally become the ‘good’ person I wanted them to be, but the world surrounding them are not, will they survive? …  Ya, may be on top of teaching them what is good and be good, I need to let them know there are people choose to be bad and they have to be aware and take good care of themselves …

… I think I really worried too much …


Sharing my worry about my mum aging with my hubby.

“Ai ya, every old people is like that one. Don’t say her, me also quite forgetful nowadays.” he commented.

“But but she acted like she never said it before, never happened before.”

“Ai ya, me also like that.” he laughed ” There were times where my mind was totally blank that I did say something or do something before.”

“Don’t worry, I am also like that. You worry too much la…”

Ai ya ya… am I?


Last night called up mum to clarify something she told me before.

To my surprise, she answered to me that she never spoke of such thing.

… … immediately I felt I was a bit like … sinking …

I continued the telephone conversation chit-chatting about something else, other topics, and her favourite flowers etc before we bid each other good night.


This is not the first time she is acting like that. It’s not just forgetting, but to her, it never happened before. I am worry, I am suspecting, .. and now I am a bit not sure what to do.

I know really well that though they are getting older, they still want to protect their freedom, to stay at the place they like, to do the things the way they want. .. I was once struggling hard, don’t they know that it’s for the best of them to be here , where they will be well taken care of… but then, things happened, and it made me realized, they just want to get old with dignity, in their old home-sweet-home, passing time without needing to bother about what time is it now….

Just like before Chinese New Year, went back and help clean up a bit. We know that there is a barrier there, where we cannot throw anything, no matter how bad the condition it is, we just cannot touch it. The most is use a clean cloth, wipe it, and put back the same place. Else, another round of scolding.

Life is tough and full of conflicts … Guess this is the lesson coming soon to my door steps again…

Ling was murmuring to herself while sweeping floor.

“每一年都有扫把的生日。扫把的礼物就是休息一天不用扫地。哦哈哈哈,what a funny 礼物。”


“Every year the broom has birthday. And the present for the broom is to rest for one day, no need to sweep the floor. Wah ha ha ha! What a funny present.”

Ling, what a funny and adorable girl your are …. wah ha ha ha !


February 2011

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