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Archive for February 2012

It’s time for registration again. For Selangor,  need to register online:

http://www.moe.gov.my/jpnselangor

or

http://apps.moe.gov.my/esppsel

For children born in both 2006 and 2007.

 

Note: For those born in 2006, you might want to update the form if you have another child born in 2005/Std 1 this year.

Reason being: Last year, when you submit the form for 2006 child, you still haven’t know which school your 2005 child gets. If he/she gets the same school you would like to apply for 2006 child, you might want to update this field (in red)

Read this article 揭開婚姻的「半幸福」真相 from 天下杂志: http://www.cw.com.tw/article/article.action?id=5030201

「多數時候你活在矛盾和舉棋不定的狀態中:前一分鐘,你覺得你的婚姻是美好扎實的;下一分鐘,你痛恨它……前一分鐘,你無法想像留下;下一分鐘,你無法想像離去。」

這是哈格(Pamela Haag)在她的新書《婚姻的祕密》(Marriage Confidential)導言中,所點出的左右為難困境。

她指出,有種婚姻叫「半幸福婚姻」(semi-happy marriage)。

這種婚姻感覺有點不對勁,但又不至於到痛苦的地步;夫妻可能感到失望,卻不是慣性的不快樂。

「他們對婚姻有種徘徊不去的悲哀感,但通常缺乏明顯、具體的理由,」哈格說。

男女在家庭中可能擁有如「男女主人」、「丈夫與妻子」和「父母」等角色。過去,照顧孩子的「父母」角色,常不見得是第一選項。

但在今日,孩子的地位已經登上了王座,高高在上。

小孩的教養在現在社會中,成了一門特殊專精的學問,也因此形成了,一對夫妻不是不敢生小孩,就是當決定要有小孩後,完全以小孩為中心的兩種極端。

這為婚姻帶來了壓力。夫妻變得不再對「婚姻」有承諾或執著,而只對「父母」這個角色投入。哈格甚至將小孩稱為「新配偶」。

。。。

When I have a good thought of it, firstly, my marriage never has any “承諾”. Guess for him, it’s just the right time to get married. Mistake No.1. Secondly, don’t really discuss on whether want to have children, how we would like to raise them, etc, Mistake No. 2, … ya, to me, my marriage only left the “being a mother” role.    … so tired …

What will I do when my girls have grown up and independent,  mm … The “D” word always come out first…  hahaha…  ya.. I am so tired being trapped in marriage.

Girls, 三思 !!

Please read the Sin Chew today, the article from 鄭丁賢‧澳洲很大,關丹很小, how precise.

“稀土提煉過程,以及廢料會釋放輻射,這是科學常識。”

Fact: processing of rare earth dispose radioactive and toxic waste.

“用簡單的邏輯來想,澳洲面積是770萬平方公里,全球排名第6,比馬來西亞大出20倍;而澳洲人口只有2千2百萬人,比大馬還少。”

Using a simple logic, Australia land size is about 7,700,000 km2 ,the world 6th largest country, bigger than Malaysia 20 times;

and Australia population is only about 22,000,000, less than Malaysia.

“澳洲那麼大,很多地方人跡罕至;萊納應該輕易的找個地方設廠,萬一出事,傷害可以控制在最小的範圍。”

Australia is so big, a lot of places are not populated; Lynas can easily find a good spot to build the plant, if anything happens, casualty and damage can be easily controlled and minimized.”

“關丹這麼小,方圓30公里,人口卻有70萬人;一旦出事,居民往哪兒去?”

Kuantan is so small, within 30km2 , the population is already 700,000; if anything happens, where should the people go?

“萊納棄澳洲而就關丹,還必須把澳洲開採的稀土,通過5千多公里的航線,運輸到關丹;成本增加之外,也耗時費日。澳洲人難道那麼缺乏生意頭腦?”

Australia chooses Kuantan for this rare-earth plant, still need to fly the rare-earth over 5000km to Kuantan, the transportation cost, the time consume, ain’t Australian smart enough to calculate all these huge expenses imposed to the business ?

“當然不是,而是因為澳洲把安全放在經濟利益之上。”

Certainly not, it’s because Australia put safety first, on top of $$$.

“大馬政府4部門建議萊納把稀土廢料運回澳洲,或是一廂情願;國際公約禁止廢料跨國運輸,澳洲政府也已聲明不回收稀土廢料。”

Fact: Malaysian government said will transport back the waste to Australia. No, it’s against the international law, as well as Australian government has already said “No” to take back the waste.

So, another lie from our government ?? 卖国求“私”荣  ?? We must STOP LYNAS !!

Waiting outside the gate, saw Ling was having great fun during her PE lesson. When the school went off, she walked out happily with a wide smile on her face, started sharing with Ying story about her school, her friends, the game they played during PE, which team won and which lose, just like a bird chirping on my head..

I am glad…

Told Daddy about the incident, he managed to have a ‘swift’ (sweet) talk with her.

“She is just being tired on the way to school.”

Hopefully so . . . may be he hasn’t witness the mood swing …  hopefully so …

Last night, Ling found out that her school library will open @ 12.30pm everyday. She was quite disappointed when she was asked to leave after just about 5 minutes she went in.

“I was not able to complete the book I read, then they said Std 1 students need to line up for class.”

So this morning she was eager to go to school earlier.

Was kind of busy this morning.Ling this little bee kept on buzz in buzz out talking about library opens at 12.30pm.

I only managed to comment, “Don’t forget that we need to fetch 妹妹 first.”

In the car, after sending 妹妹  home, she kept on looking at the watch.

“Mummy, if today there is not much car, you can drive faster, right ?”

“I will try, but I will drive according to the rules. Cannot simply speeding on the road. It’s dangerous.”

She kept quite. Along the way, I concentrated on driving. On and off, I heard she whispered, “4 more minutes left.” .. “2 more minutes left”.

We were still half way when the clock hit 12:30pm.

“You still can go in to library. Still got plenty of time left. If you cannot finish the book, ask teacher and see how to borrow the book.” I tried to comfort her.

“I don’t want to borrow book.” sounded very unhappy.

I was still driving. She hugged her Pooh Bear pillow and closed her eyes. … silence…

When reached her school, she was eye wet-wet and eye red-red again. “Mummy, I want to sleep … ”

Oh dear, there she goes again ….

sigh … girl, I know it seems like everything is not going your way after you started Primary 1, you told me you don’t like afternoon class, it’s very hot, make you sleepy, you don’t like the toilet, you don’t like too many homework, you don’t like the naughty boys next door, ..

And I know you miss us a lot, you miss 妹妹 , you miss Daddy, you miss the cushion at home, you miss sleeping on that cushion, you feel home is the safest place for you ….

You have been losing interest on every thing now.. no reading, no playing piano,  … just clinging to the TV, though you don’t really watching it …

………….

Another challenge in raising children I guess …

Dear, you  need to grow up and learn to adapt to change, adapt to new environment. Sigh, how I wish you can understand what mummy said “The world is not turning around just for you.”  You change, not the world change.  … but now is not a good time for lecturing, I know you are sort of stress out …  .. .. .. .. .. .. .. ..

… what should I do ….

Check out this article  “9 Essential Skills Kids Should Learn” from a homeschool parent @ http://zenhabits.net/kid-skills/

A summry:

1. Asking questions

2. Solving problems

3. Tackling projects

4. Finding passion

5. Independence

6. Being happy on their own

  • [I like this one especially: if a child learns from an early age that he can be happy by himself, playing and reading and imagining, he has one of the most valuable skills there is. Allow your kids to be alone from an early age. Give them privacy, have times (such as the evening) when parents and kids have alone time.]

7. Compassion

8. Tolerance

9. Dealing with change

Please do read it. 9 Essential Skills Kids Should Learn

Was using these Mathematics books (Singapore syllabus) for my girls as home practice. Try to let them get used to Maths in English.

Was kind of busy lately and not really couching them. Only at night, I had chance to flip through what they had done and marked their work.

Found this interesting exercise Ying did. Cool… it’s writing exercise in Maths lesson … hahaha… and Ying did try hard to tell a story.

 

Have you read this ? OMG ! UM spending money sending 200 academic staff overseas who fail to complete their PHD !!!

200 is not a small number. Hiring 200 unfit person to teach in the University is not a small mistake.

Staffed with such unqualified people, whatever policy also useless. In this globalized world, the only system that will work is real meritocracy (not the one hiding behind the color of the skin).

To me, education is the passing down of knowledge to next generation (知识的传承).

I like one quote from a forum-er: When one person receives without working, another person must work without receiving …… Imagine when this happens in millions…

Finally I finished reading this wonderful book by Andrea Hirata. A book that I prefer to read quietly without being disturbed, where I could let my mind run wild with all these children, shared their laughter and tears, anger and sadness.

I cheered for them when the brilliant Mahal came out with the African dance as the performance (where these poor kids do not need any costume) and won the first trophy for the school in an inter-school competition.

I couldn’t help holding up my tears when reading the part describing how Pak Harfan never gave up and taught the kids till his last breath (he was found passed away on his desk preparing for the kids exam), and his answer “I will be more sick if I didn’t teach” when asked to rest;… and on the part where Lintang appeared after absent for 4 days, to say good bye to his fellow friends and teacher Mus, cause his father passed away, and he has to work and feed his family of 14 (4 grandparents, mother, sistersss…), that he has to give up studying and the dream to be a mathematician, that the world lost a genius to poverty …

And I also enjoy how the author teased the dirty politician, the ill attitude this society has towards the poor, and how precise he analyze/describe the characters of each ethnic groups there, soem are lazy, some are cunning…

Holding the book tight in my hands, sitting on the couch in my bedroom, looking at the girls sound asleep . ..  feeling very grateful for what we have now…

I don’t like reading sad story, but I think I will read this book again and may be again (I seldom do that to any book). .

This book was translated to English as well. They made a film out of this story in 2008 and it won a number of local and international awards.

But still I recommended reading the book instead.

If you can read Chinese/know BM, you can watch the movie online in 土豆网: http://www.tudou.com/programs/view/YEFOVyVB3Z0

 

 

During the debate between Lim Guan Eng and Datuk Seri Dr Chua Soi Lek, the open Q&A session, it’s so obvious so many typical MCA “大脚友” came out to asked bias questions which is out of the debate topics. Like the guy who shouted so loud about toll in Penang, oh dear, if you have knowledge, you know it’s not under the State government authority to abolish it, it’ s the Federal Government.. And the other woman who claimed she is half-Penang -person, crying out loud about ronda or something after 10.30pm in Penang… ai yo yo…

It’s so obvious…

I support Lim Guan Eng vision, but then I doubt about PAS. And ya, PAS mess up Kedah a lot, my mom has been complaining a lot. The area we stay is so dirty and really not being taken care of.

Really has the urge to translate the debate and share with all, so you can see for yourself how the  “大脚友”  put up the show thinking that we can be easily deceived, before the star comes up with a whitewash of everything Lim Guan Eng said.

I like the comment from the moderator of that debate, that he urge the audience to learn to listen, and respect the debate.

But then I must say, KUDO ! to both Lim Guan Eng and  Datuk Seri Dr Chua Soi Lek who dare to take this first  big step in Malaysia political world. Looking forward for a debate between Prime Minister Datuk Seri Najib Razak debate Opposition Leader Datuk Seri Anwar Ibrahim.

Again, HE knows …


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