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It crashes with my brother’s wedding. Gonna miss it. 😦

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Just to share what Ling and Ying has progressed in BM.

Still, they are not so good in vocabulary, but I know they are picking up.

And last week, when picked up the girls from school, Ling eagerly told me, “Mummy, mummy, I know what to say in Bahasa Malaysia when want to toilet. “Bolehkah saya pergi ke tandas?”

She was so excited about that she couldn’t help running to tell her dad when he came home from work.

And for Ying, she likes to pick up one Pelangi book,  “Apa Ini” and read to her dad (well, while the daddy has his eyes fixed on the big box where over twenties strong men running around for a small black and white ball).

And now, I try to reduce the use of sticker as they are quite familiar with suku kata. So when doing worksheet, most of the time, the problem will be they don’t know what the things are called in Bahasa Malaysia. Once you tell them, they are able to spell it out.

Why do I think needs to start with suku kata to learn BM? Why not straight vocab? Can, can start with vocab. I don’t mean cannot. Just that for me, I find it easier to help my children once they have confident at the basic. Easier to push.

Suku kata is the easiest to master for a kid. Once they master it, they have confident and easier to help them moved on. Like sometimes I will say, “kuda” is horse. Then Ying will say, “I know, k-u-ku, d-a-da.” Then I will quickly say, “Yes. Clever girl. You are right.” ..and well, with a little bit praise, few times of practise, Ying knows by heart now “kuda” is horse. At least during the teaching process, no yelling, no scolding, and absolutely no the forbidden word like “stupid, so easy also don’t know” in my house.

So at least for the start they won’t dislike the language too much. At least, that is the best I can give. Have to think a bit like my husband, I have faith that they can learn if they dont hate it.

I was busy like an ant (extreme busy) for the last one month..two more weeks to go (I hope). Worked no day no night.

Was not able to accompany the girls and just let them play by themselves.

This few days, I notice there are anger in Ling, she seems to get irritated easily by Ying. And she tents to compete with her, like who will take bath first, who will sit in front of the car.

And Ying, cheeky her, she likes to nag her sister to help her get her things done, like keep her toys. Our mistake also, as we always tell Ling , “Ling, you have to take care of you sister oo, you are 姐姐哦.”

Ling was very kind and loving girl. She gives in to her sister in the beginning, especially when Ying cried, she normally will be the first one to say sorry. Yes, we are proud of her, but I guess, we didn’t speak out and let her know how proud we are of her well being.

But recently I think Ying has overdone it, and Ling started to act not so good, started to show temper, though a short one.

Tonight, Ling woke up a few times, sleeping talking, scolding her sister, crying, saying she doesn’t like her sister any more, crying, and crying… Ling tends to get this kind of reaction at night during her sleep when she was upset during the day time. It was a bad evening where the two girls fight over a book (where there are plenty more beside that one). I scolded them, the Dad scolded them as well. So, now Ling has nightmares.

I must do something to make Ling feels better and ‘fair’. Eventually how well and peaceful a family is depends on how  the children feel they are ‘fairly treated’.

… bringing up children are so tough…

and sorry Ling, mama neglected your feeling. It’s tough to be 大姐。Please forgive mama.