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Gonna read this together with my girls.

This is a nice article (http://best.parenting.com.tw/blogger_article.php?w=537) from a single mom, sharing about her thoughts, after a conversation with her 4 years old daughter about single parent. She knew it’s hard to explain to a child, “Why there are people who don’t love my Mummy?

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Not everyone in this world loves you.” This fact everyone knows it. But, when it really happens to us, especially the person who doesn’t love us is someone who was once or still very important to us, that pain will make us forget about this very fact in life: “Not everyone in this world loves you.”.

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Once I read somewhere, you must always tell your child that you love him/her, let him/her be confident that “he/she is being loved, and he/she deserves to be loved”; so that when they grow up and if ever caught in situation of being bullied, deep down in their heart, they will always remember this feeling of being loved and therefore not easily get defeated.

Though I found it sound quite logical, but there was something non-agreeable which I was unable to tell at that time, until I saw the confused face of my little one, then only I figured out. “Letting children know they are being loved” is just at a level where we are letting others’ love to determine our self-worth. We should be stronger, we should be: “I know my own value/self-worth, and it has nothing to do with others love me or not.

Then the writer shared about her sad experience, being dumped while she was pregnant. And during that time, she did a lot of reconcilation and reflection of her past. And she managed to figure out the below.

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People change, love change. May be you are just not-loved “very innocently“, or may be not  (which is something you need to think about more  deeply); either way, this ‘not being loved’ incident is just another matter happened in your life. Like any other matters, where it affects you, and depending on how you see it and handle it, it change your life.

To conclude,

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I don’t even want to just tell her, “even if someone don’t love you any more, it doesn’t reduce your value/self-worth“; but more on “if someone don’t love you, how you handle this, determine the kind of person you will change into“.

Girls,

This is what Mummy believes.

夫妻應該像左右手一樣。
Husband and wife are just like left hand and right hand.

左手提東西累了,不用開口,右手就會接過來,
Left hand is tired after carrying heavy loads, no need to speak out, the right hand will take over.

右手受了傷,也不用著呼喊和請求,左手就會伸過去。
Right hand is injured, no need to shout for help, left hand will lend himself to help.

假如一個人的左手很累,右手卻伸不過來,
If a person’s left hand is worn out, and the right hand don’t want to help,

這個人的身體一定是中風了,或是癱瘓了。
that person must have gotten stroke or handicap.

婚姻愛情的身軀,假若一方不能主動地去關懷對方,
In a marriage/ love life, if one don’t take initiative/have the heart to care for the other half,

久而久之,隨著不良狀況的加劇,也會中風癱瘓。
slowly and eventually, the marriage/love life will get stroke.

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p.s. Girls, Mummy hopes you two know what to look for, not someone who is handsome, rich, … but the heart, whether he can be your left hand/right hand or not.

Girls, mm … about relationship, Mummy hopes you can think like this boy:

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Girls, about love, about heart break, mm … mm… Mummy wants to share this.

You might think:

其实,《我》已经不重要了。
其实,《他》已经不重要了。
因为,《爱》已经不在了。

NO. That is not the case !

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This is what Mummy wants to say or teach, please remember:

因为《我不爱我》,所以《爱》不在了。
然后《我》找《他》要《爱》。
但是那不是《爱》。
其实,《爱》已经不在了,当《我》开始《不爱我》

其实,《我》很重要。
因为,《我爱我》。

Mummy keeps this photo in the ‘About’ page as well.

When you grow up, there sure will be time when we will have disagreement, arguments, conflicts in some way, especially when Mummy grows older and older, more and more out dated, more and more forgetful, ‘nyanyuk’. May be at times you might even find Mummy being ridiculous… (Mummy went through this before).

In time like that, just bring up this picture and have a look at it. You will be more at ease and more forgiving.

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A 97 year old mother still takes care of her 60 year old paralyzed son.

 

Sharing this, extracted from the Golden words of Paradise facebook.

TRUE LOVE ..(A Doctor’s note) Must Read n share

It was approximately 8.30 a.m. on a busy morning when an elderly gentleman in his eighties arrived to have stitches removed from his thumb.
He stated that he was in a hurry as he had an appointment at 9.00 a.m. I took his vital signs and had him take a seat. I knew it would take more than an hour before someone would to able to attend to him. I saw him check his watch anxiously for the time and decided to evaluate his wound since I was not busy with another patient.

On examination, the wound was well healed. Hence, I talked to one of the doctors to get the supplies to remove his sutures and redress his wound. We began to engage in a conversation while I was taking care of his wound.

I asked him if he had another doctor’s appointment later as he was in such a hurry. The gentleman told me no and said that he needed to go to the nursing home to have breakfast with his wife. I inquired about her health. He told me that she had been in the nursing home for a while as she was a victim of Alzheimer’s disease. I probed further and asked if she would be upset if he was slightly late. He replied that she no longer knew who he was and she had not been able to recognize him since five years ago.

I asked him in surprise, “And you still go every morning, even though she doesn’t know who you are?

He smiled as he patted my hand and said, “She doesn’t know me, but I still know who she is.” I had to hold back my tears as he left.

I had goose bumps on my arm, and I thought, “That is the kind of love I want in my life.”

True love is neither physical nor romantic. True love is an acceptance of all that is, has been, will be, and will not be.

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A funny but full of wisdom quote shared by a friend. I have a good laugh, will show it to my hubby.

中国第一夫人彭丽媛当年的一段话,太智慧了啊!

女人只要管好自己已经很了不起,干嘛要去管男人呢?

听话的男人不用管,不听话的男人,要管也管不到,

对你好的男人不用管,对你不好的男人,不会让你管,

爱你的男人不用管,不爱你的男人,轮不到你管。

Opps, I don’t think I can translate this. Cannot find the right words to use.


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