Archive for the ‘About Love’ Category
This is a nice article (http://best.parenting.com.tw/blogger_article.php?w=537) from a single mom, sharing about her thoughts, after a conversation with her 4 years old daughter about single parent. She knew it’s hard to explain to a child, “Why there are people who don’t love my Mummy?”
“Not everyone in this world loves you.” This fact everyone knows it. But, when it really happens to us, especially the person who doesn’t love us is someone who was once or still very important to us, that pain will make us forget about this very fact in life: “Not everyone in this world loves you.”.
Once I read somewhere, you must always tell your child that you love him/her, let him/her be confident that “he/she is being loved, and he/she deserves to be loved”; so that when they grow up and if ever caught in situation of being bullied, deep down in their heart, they will always remember this feeling of being loved and therefore not easily get defeated.
Though I found it sound quite logical, but there was something non-agreeable which I was unable to tell at that time, until I saw the confused face of my little one, then only I figured out. “Letting children know they are being loved” is just at a level where we are letting others’ love to determine our self-worth. We should be stronger, we should be: “I know my own value/self-worth, and it has nothing to do with others love me or not.“
Then the writer shared about her sad experience, being dumped while she was pregnant. And during that time, she did a lot of reconcilation and reflection of her past. And she managed to figure out the below.
People change, love change. May be you are just not-loved “very innocently“, or may be not (which is something you need to think about more deeply); either way, this ‘not being loved’ incident is just another matter happened in your life. Like any other matters, where it affects you, and depending on how you see it and handle it, it change your life.
I don’t even want to just tell her, “even if someone don’t love you any more, it doesn’t reduce your value/self-worth“; but more on “if someone don’t love you, how you handle this, determine the kind of person you will change into“.
This is what Mummy believes.
Husband and wife are just like left hand and right hand.
Left hand is tired after carrying heavy loads, no need to speak out, the right hand will take over.
Right hand is injured, no need to shout for help, left hand will lend himself to help.
If a person’s left hand is worn out, and the right hand don’t want to help,
that person must have gotten stroke or handicap.
In a marriage/ love life, if one don’t take initiative/have the heart to care for the other half,
slowly and eventually, the marriage/love life will get stroke.
p.s. Girls, Mummy hopes you two know what to look for, not someone who is handsome, rich, … but the heart, whether he can be your left hand/right hand or not.
Girls, about love, about heart break, mm … mm… Mummy wants to share this.
You might think:
NO. That is not the case !
This is what Mummy wants to say or teach, please remember: