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Archive for June 2012

[Updated with English version I recently received from a friend and republished.]

This is an article about 11 things not taught in schools, extracted from a book 《孩子们在学校学不到的五十件事》

To my girls :
Rule 1: Life is never fair. Get used to it.

Rule 2: The world won’t care about your self-esteem. The world will expect you to accomplish something BEFORE you feel good about yourself.

Rule 3: You will NOT get a job with $40,000 a year right out of high school, nor will you be a Vice President immediately. First you have to start with wearing a non-branded uniform. You have to earn them.

Rule 4: If you think your parents, your teachers are tough, wait until you get a boss.

Rule 5: Flipping burgers is not beneath your dignity. Your Grandparents had a different word for burger flipping: they called it opportunity.

Rule 6: If you mess up, it’s not your parents’ fault, so don’t whine about your mistakes, learn from your mistakes.

Rule 7: Before you are born, your parents ain’t as boring as they are now. They got that way from paying your bills, cleaning your clothes and listening to you talk about how cool you thought you were…So before you save the rain forest from the parasites of your parent’s generation, try delousing the closet in your own room.

Rule 8: Your school may have done away with winners and losers, but life HAS NOT. In some schools, they have abolished failing grades and they’ll give you as MANY TIMES as you want to get the right answer. This doesn’t bear the slightest resemblance to ANYTHING in real life.

Rule 9: Life is not divided into semesters. You don’t get summers off and very few employers are interested in helping you FIND YOURSELF. Do that on your own time…

Rule 10: Television is NOT real life. In real life people actually have to leave the coffee shop and go to jobs. The problem you face in real life won’t get solved in 30 minutes, and there is no commercial break.

Rule 11: Be nice to nerds. Chances are you’ll end up working for one.


This is a paper cutting Mummy kept for quite some time. Mummy likes this story.

The Master Monk loves orchids. He planted some. 

One day, he was invited to give a talk outstation. He asked the Little Monk to look after his orchids while he was away.

Every day the Little Monk took very good care of the orchids. But one day, when watering the plant, he fell and accidentally broke the flower pot. The orchids was scattered on the ground.

The Little Monk was very worried. Every day he couldn’t eat, couldn’t sleep. When the Master Monk was back, the Little Monk went to confess his mistake.

Looking at the Little Monk who was covered with tears then, the Master Monk didn’t scold the Little Monk, instead comforting him.

“Si Fu, aren’t you mad at me ?” The Little Monk asked in disbelief.

The Master Monk smiled and said, “I planted the flower to worship Buddha, NOT because I want to get angry/ be upset.” 

In our life, a lot of times there are things that upset us, there are people that upset us (including Mummy, Mummy apologize first), … but try to think it the other way, you don’t come to this world to get mad. “我们活着不是为了生气。” 

Try to redirect your thought/focus to things you want to do in this life, be happy, instead of letting other irrelevant people / things affect your emotion. 切记!


Posted on: June 24, 2012

Last Monday, Ling gave a 周训 (a speech) during the weekly assembly, in front of the headmaster, assistant headmasters, teachers and all Std 1 & 2 students .

We prepared for this since a month ago. Every night, she just read the speech once, and tried to memorize it (and Ying sat beside, memorized them quietly as well). Now, both Ling and Ying can read it out aloud by heart.

Thinking to keep this speech she presented, something they can look at again when they grow up, some fond memory during Ling Std 1…




Thanks to the school and teachers for this great exposure as well.

Today Ling’s school held the singing competition. Ling was chosen to be the DJ/presenter to introduce all the Primary One contestants. We have been practicing almost every night. Finally the day came. Too bad I was not invited. When I picked her up after school, I asked her how was it,

“Fine. Everything goes well.” She replied with a big smile, and continued to explain in detail how it’s done, where she was seated on the backstage, who won, who didn’t show up ….

“You really enjoyed it, right?” I smiled also.

“Yup,  and teacher gave me a present for helping out. And I did say ‘Thank You’.” another big smile on her face 🙂

Thank you teacher Teo. 

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On the staircase going up to their Yamaha class tonight, met Ling’s classmate Jia Yi,

“Auntie, I get No. 3 in singing competition in my school.” greeted Jia Yi.

“Well done!  You must be very happy.” I commented.

Another happy girl wearing a big smile today 🙂

Ya… it’s the singing competition season now…

Recently, I observed that Ling tends to avoid things that she finds difficult and cannot get it all correct in the first time. There are times she gave up without trying and just say “I don’t know.”. .. Quite concerned… Ya, she shows sign of perfectionist…. so a lot of persuading,  sweet talk, encouraging, coaching her slowly, … and at the end, she actually just make it through, just manage to pick up  (and a lot of time, in a snap of finger). ..

To my dear Ling and Ying,

Mummy is quite concerned, in fact, very concerned about this nowadays… this attitude is not right.

Don’t be afraid to make mistake, we learn from mistake. No one is perfect and no one always get everything correct every time.

Also, don’t be bother of how long it takes to finally pick up new things/new skill/new lesson, just don’t give up and keep on tackling it, and one fine day, you will just get where you want to. Don’t be afraid to be wrong.

Dedicating the below famous saying from Sir Ken Robinson to both of you:


Something I read from newspaper and jotted down long ago, about the purpose of education, which I cannot find anything more precise.


The three main purposes of education:


to teach one to become useful (direct translation 😛 , which mean who can contribute back to the society), this is skill & talent education.


to teach one to be a good person, this is character building education.


to teach one to be happy, merciful and benevolent, this is humanities education.

** This is what I believe: what Education should be as a whole. And schools are just institutions / tools to help in archieving some (a very little some) of the above, and cannot be held responsible to deliver all. We all, the parents, the society,..  are. **

Dear girls,

Mummy quite agree with this newspaper cutting ESPECIALLY the first one… Something worse reading and thinking…

We must first learn to conform with other, before learning to stand out from the mass.

We must first learn about the complexity, before learning about simplifying. [mm.. as a IT programmer, a lot of time, Mummy needs to spend time understanding complex system, before Mummy can come out with a simple enough solution to meet the requirement]

We must first learn to love ourselves, before learning how to love others. [ya, take good care of yourself, so that you can take better care of people you love]

We must first learn to love our family, before learning how to love our friends.

We must first learn how to live/survive, before learning how to experience/enjoy life.

We must first learn how to conduct oneself, before learning to be an officer.

We must first demand ourselves, before we demand others to do the same.

We must first learn to adapt, before learning to be independent.


June 2012

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